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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2016 14:07:00 GMT -5
Why would she not put the expensive stuff on the registry? You can't buy it with your completion bonus if it isn't on registry - and BRU especially it makes sense to put everything on the registry because every $$ spent on registry items goes towards a gift card you get after baby is born.
My entire nursery set was on my BRU registry because it earned us over $160 of gift cards to do it that way.
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Post by chipmunk on Feb 4, 2016 14:28:57 GMT -5
I'd side eye the FIVE diaper bags and TWO $200 high chairs, just because that's a lot.
The rocker/glider and the ottoman sounds very very expensive, but I'd give her the benefit of the doubt on the possibility of a) she tested out a bunch and this was the most comfortable/supportive one she found for her (she may have a medical condition making sitting for long periods of time difficult if she doesn't have good support) b)she went pinterest "perfect baby room" happy, or c) she'll get some kind of discount off of it if she buys it close to her due date. Since DH and I are using the wood straight back rocking chair that belonged to his mom (I'm just adding a comfy cushion or two), I'm not really in a position to say what's super expensive or not.
I think the diaper bag I picked out is super pricey, at almost $100. Yep, I'm side eyeing myself. But it's one of those bags that unzips into its own changing table/pad, and can work temporarily as a bassinet for say, picnics out, and has great reviews. That's why I chose it.
I will also get a registry completion discount of 15% off the total order when I'm within 30 days of delivering. I'm ok with putting my higher priced things there (crib, mattress, baby monitor, carrier, diaper bag) and not expecting a single person to buy any of them, because I'll get that discount at the end of it. If folks want to, that's very kind and generous of them. If they'd rather buy one of the little packs of onesies for 10 bucks, or some of the toys or books that are 5 to 15 dollars a piece, that's awesome and generous of them too.
I would, however, side eye the hell out that registry you're referencing, @lolo, if the ONLY things on the registry are high price tag items. I always thought baby registries follow the same rules as wedding registries- you provide a list of suggested items, in a variety of prices for a variety of budgets, and people do what they want from there.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2016 14:48:51 GMT -5
I guess I just don't see why it matters. My glider/ottoman was probably $700 for the set? But it's a upholstered recliner. Figured if I was going to be sitting in it a lot, might as well get a good one.
I don't have a high chair (don't need it yet) but some of them are pricey - especially the ones designed for smaller kitchens and/or that convert.
And heck - I carry a Coach diaper bag. It will double as a work bag/laptop bag once little man grows up past the point of my needing a diaper bag.
To each their own I suppose. Our baby stuff is pretty pricey - and we had some very generous friends and family. But we bought a good deal ourselves and also got a lot of hand me downs.
Now what I don't understand the pricing on are baby wearing stuff. That shit is stupid expensive! (I love it and want more but damn...a Moby is just material...why does it cost so much!!)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2016 14:52:41 GMT -5
I wish I had the amount of clothes, shoes/socks, etc that my kid has! And man...I wish they made an adult version of the Momaroo! Babies get cool stuff
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Post by kristenkay on Feb 4, 2016 15:10:08 GMT -5
I would bet that she's probably still working on narrowing down her diaper bag choice(s). We registered for 2...a Skip Hop Tote and a backpack(for H). I also bought myself a JuJuBe BFF. We actually use them all but I like the JuJuBe the least, which is funny because it was the most expensive!
I side-eyed a lot of stuff my SIL put on her baby registry. I can't remember specifics but I do remember she registered at Restoration Hardware and it was pricey (really cute, but pricey!). I don't know if she actually got anything from that registry.
I don't care what people spend on stuff for themselves(I mean I bought an Upppababy Vista and have 5 Tulas, expensive stuff!), but I do think it's annoying if you expect people to buy it for you.
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Post by kristenkay on Feb 4, 2016 15:12:21 GMT -5
Maybe a self-cleaning high chair? However that would work... Ohhh if there was a self-cleaning high chair, I would spend $200 on that! God yes! Cleaning G's high chair is sooo annoying! It's from Ikea and was like $50 I think?
I actually won a Joovy Wood Nook from Bumb Club and Beyond (should be coming in the mail soon) and I think they cost around $200. I'll let you guys know if I think it's worth the $$ when we get it!
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Post by chipmunk on Feb 4, 2016 15:13:37 GMT -5
I got our high chair used at a consignment sale for $40. I also realized today that I never cleaned it prior to using the first time. Which totally didn't matter after his poo-solosion. Slightly off topic.....I had to explain to DH recently what a "diaper blow out" was. I'm not sure what he looked more horrified at: the possibility of there being THAT. MUCH. POOP. all over the baby and whatever the baby is wearing/sitting in/etc, or the realization that following cleaning the child, there comes the "clean the item(s)" while praying another blow out doesn't occur in the interim.
Back on topic, I don't see a problem with duplicates of certain items, like burp cloths or changing pad liners, since that will definitely get used. But multiples of an item when the parent knows they only need one? Yeah, that's odd.
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 4, 2016 15:33:29 GMT -5
My high chair was over $100, bit we only had one. My diaper bag was less than $50.
Don't go to my registry right now. We used my 15% off at target. And we added the sleep rite strips and other things to it.
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 4, 2016 15:56:57 GMT -5
My high chair was over $100, bit we only had one. My diaper bag was less than $50. Don't go to my registry right now. We used my 15% off at target. And we added the sleep rite strips and other things to it. I still have my registry open as more of a shopping list, lol. It's full of baby-proofing things for once she starts crawling, pajamas in the next few sizes up, etc. Easier to keep track of that way. I just bought myself a $135 custom made breast pump bag. MUCH EXCITE. We have a lot of baby proofing stuff on there too. But we don't plan to buy any until we can tell if we will need to even use it. We did get outlet covers at my shower and those are already placed on most of the outlets.
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 4, 2016 17:53:43 GMT -5
Oh I hope no one's looking at my registry... I've been using it to bookmark possible items I may be interested in. It currently has at least 5 strollers and 10 different carriers on it...
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 5, 2016 8:35:33 GMT -5
Oh I hope no one's looking at my registry... I've been using it to bookmark possible items I may be interested in. It currently has at least 5 strollers and 10 different carriers on it... Has invites for your shower been sent or have you given where you registered at to anyone except for you and h's moms. If its no to those questions then I think you are fine. I never search for a friend/family registry before I get invited to an event.
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Post by chipmunk on Feb 5, 2016 8:42:53 GMT -5
Oh I hope no one's looking at my registry... I've been using it to bookmark possible items I may be interested in. It currently has at least 5 strollers and 10 different carriers on it... You should be fine. I had some duplicates of stuff for a while, and DH and I will occasionally change out/delete items (example, we got the pack n play for significantly less than if we'd left it on the registry, so saving money win). If someone sees all that on there, hopefully they will correctly assume you are narrowing down your options on strollers and carriers
A few family members and family friends have inquired if we created a registry on their own, before my friend approached me about wanting to throw me a shower. I've told them where it is located, but haven't pushed/suggested anything- I got the vibe that it's more curiosity at what we're registering for/ideas on what sort of themes we're choosing for certain items than anything else.
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 5, 2016 11:13:18 GMT -5
A date hasn't even been set for my shower. Actually, I'm not even sure it's going to happen. My cousin offered to throw me one a few weeks ago but I haven't heard any more about it and she's sort of the type of person who doesn't always follow through. Certainly there have been no invites and I haven't told anyone about a registry. But you can find it if you google my name + baby registry. I've always felt weird about registries... I'm not entirely sure that I'll advertise it to be honest, though I may tell people about it if they directly ask. I wouldn't be surprised if my parents offer to buy us one of the bigger ticket items, which is the main reason why I've been thinking about them this early.
I think we'll be getting some extras for my dad's house. They live 2 hours away but we are there a lot. Their house is on a lake in N.H. and I'm hoping to spend a chunk of my summertime maternity leave there.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2016 11:35:09 GMT -5
gingerlady - don't feel bad about what you put on a registry. Everyone's situation is different, everyone uses a registry different and well...everyone's families and friends are different as well as circumstances around a baby arriving. Register for what you want, and know that when it comes to parenting? Someone is always going to side eye something. From the moment you are pregnant until basically the end of your life - someone, somewhere is going to question, side eye, disagree, etc with your choices for your child and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2016 12:02:47 GMT -5
I mean, it's common courtesy to worry about it BECAUSE we know our friends and family and their respective situations. If we were all Gwyneth Paltrow (and/or all assholes) we wouldn't think twice about $500 rockers. You can't hide all greedy wishes under the veil of parenting choices. It's common courtesy to "side eye" someone's choice of a high chair or diaper bag? We obviously have different definitions as to what "common courtesy" is. Side eye-ing a registry is sitting over there with judgey pants on and gossiping about someone and the choices they made for their registry (and let's face it...also sitting back and somewhat patting yourself on the back for doing a better job yourself of having a more proper registry, etc) It's not common courtesy.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2016 12:11:34 GMT -5
In fact...a step further would be talking to said "friend" and saying "hey Jane...I checked out your registry. Did you know about ABC high chair? If you need 2 high chairs, this version costs only $x. And I saw that you had 5 different diaper bags. Are you still trying to decide? We have X bag and really like it because of 1,2,3 reasons"
That's common courtesy and acting like a friend. Not going on a random internet chat board and gossiping behind her back about what she has on a registry.
That's not very friendly. And if she *is* a friend how would she feel if she saw this post?
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 5, 2016 12:25:33 GMT -5
I can maybe understand having a $200+ item on the registry but add it after you have the baby shower (if your having one).
I am even trying to consider cost of living which is not high where @lolo lives. Its not like she lives in Nyc or cali where I could see the cost of items could be more.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2016 12:29:30 GMT -5
I don't think anything...other than perhaps as a friend you should talk to your friend rather than snark about her on an Internet chat board of what she has registered for is way out of line for the people in your social circle.
You've said she's a first time mother who hasn't been around babies. She may not know what she needs/doesn't need and may very well be falling prey to marketing of a $200 chair when an $80 chair would serve her needs just fine.
If you know better...then help her. Don't gossip about her
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Post by Deleted on Feb 5, 2016 12:57:17 GMT -5
LOL.
I love this place. So predictable.
Go on gossiping about your friends.
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Post by chipmunk on Feb 5, 2016 13:38:42 GMT -5
huh?? I thought TH was a safe place to snark! My kiddos say I snark too much, oh well No such thing on the interwebs.
Snarking on myself here....the most expensive thing on my registry doesn't top $125, and my mom thinks the crib I have there (that I don't expect ANYONE but me to buy, I just don't want to lose it and it was convenient to have it all in one place) looks less sturdy/cheap than the pricey ones she likes. I've told her if she thinks we need something sturdier (and out of our price range), she's welcome to contribute.
Also, AW moment, since I don't want to distract the Feb appointment thread with Squish and Swimmy, I assembled this bad boy last night, after we got it on an Amazon deal, along with the better mattress, and am proud of myself for figuring out my first piece of "complicated baby equipment" (the stroller doesn't count, DH did most of that). Please have fun snarking/commenting on distaste for color/pattern, how I'll never need/rarely use the accessories, and how much I'll bitch in a year about how cumbersome the pack n play is. (gingerlady , this is the one I provided a link on in the Feb 1 thread earlier this week!) I enjoy snark
ETA: please also snark on how I need to finish touch up painting along the baseboard. Just noticed how much it stands out (dang painters tape!)
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