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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 8:26:04 GMT -5
And I figure this is a relatively safe space to do it since no one has to actually read the Expecting board unless they want to.
This last month of pregnancy sucks. People said it would be hard, but I think I thought that meant it would be awkward, and didn't actually realize how shitty it would be. I was prepared to not sleep after the baby arrives, but not for not being able to sleep this last month. I hurt everywhere. Well, not everywhere, but on the outside of my hips, which means every movement involving hips hurts (aka pretty much every movement). I'm dealing with fairly regular Braxton Hicks contractions, which have the awesome bonus of being both painful and not actual contractions, so I briefly think "I might be in labor and this might be almost over!" but then it's not. It feels like I pee every 45 minutes, night or day. And the new symptom that just reared its ugly head last night is burning pain in one of my boobs. The interwebs tells me it's probably just a blocked milk duct and nothing to worry about, but that doesn't make it hurt less. And I'm also so slow, which sucks for taking an energetic dog on walks. And my brain is foggy. I totally get now why women takes maternity leave before the baby actually arrives. I foolishly expected to be able to go strong until her arrival, figuring I'd be a bit slower but not this uncomfortable. As is I only have 11 days of work max left before I'm done, so it's not a huge deal, but right now I really wish I were in bed.
Anyway, I don't know if any words of wisdom are needed (or even if there are any). I know I'm within a few weeks of being done, and even though I know I'll still be sleep deprived and in pain then, at least I know to expect it. And obviously this is all worth it and I'm incredibly grateful to be at this point after a healthy pregnancy and with a hopefully healthy baby on the way. I'll get through this, but wanted to complain for just a minute.
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Post by vk on Jan 22, 2014 8:42:26 GMT -5
I hope these next few weeks go by as fast as they can for you. I am just over 9 weeks and feel like crap all day/night long. I cannot wait until 2nd tri to hopefully get some of my energy back. I will enjoy it while I can until I get to your point! Good luck!!
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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 8:45:21 GMT -5
vk, you're almost there! I hope you come out of first trimester and get over the worst of morning sickness. Second trimester and most of third trimester were awesome for me, and I always hope for the same for friends. And congratulations! I think I saw a few posts about you being pregnant, but don't think I'd said congrats yet!
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Post by GoneFishing on Jan 22, 2014 9:12:19 GMT -5
Aww, kwith, you whine away, girl! You're growing a freaking human being inside your body, I think it's completely understandable to lament how much the process sucks on occasion and you've actually been INCREDIBLY positive throughout this whole pregnancy. I have to confess that after the whole c-section fear, my biggest worry is heartburn in the first tri and Braxton Hicks in the third. I hear descriptions of it and things like "walking around and drinking water help" and it just makes me imagine acid reflux of the uterus. I'm a huge freaking pain wimp when it's without a purpose and have been known to beg God just to kill me and be done with it during particularly bad bouts of heartburn (hey, at least my Drama degree gets some uses, right?). I have handled broken bones, concussions, invasive biopsies, and surgeries all just fine, but inexplicable, uncurable pain inside my guts turns me into a huge freaking baby. |
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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 9:18:50 GMT -5
Thanks GoneFishing! I think one reason I've stayed positive / am now so whiny is that I've actually had a pretty easy and pain free pregnancy up until the last few weeks. If it helps at all with your fears, you may not have to deal with a lot of the side effects. I was worried about heartburn but have only had two bad incidents the whole pregnancy. And one of the signs the Braxton Hicks aren't real is that the pain will typically go away if you shift what you're doing. So, if I'm walking and get them, I just need to sit or lay down for a few seconds and they go away. Or like last night when they came on, I just had to get up out of bed. It sucked being awake at 2 a.m. due to them, but at least I wasn't in pain. Though at this point I would also LOVE to have the pain of real labor start, because then the rest of this would almost be done. I beginning to think that's why this whole process takes 9 months - the first 8 or so I felt unprepared for a baby and worried about next steps. Now I can't wait to just get this part over with. |
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Post by NonosG on Jan 22, 2014 9:28:07 GMT -5
Aw kwith hang in there!!! |
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Post by GoneFishing on Jan 22, 2014 10:18:12 GMT -5
kwith, I swear some days I think your entire purpose in life was to get pregnant before me and make me feel better about all the stuff that scares me.  Sending you comfy vibes for your last few weeks!
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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 10:20:27 GMT -5
kwith, I swear some days I think your entire purpose in life was to get pregnant before me and make me feel better about all the stuff that scares me.
Sending you comfy vibes for your last few weeks! That's pretty much what I told H when we were talking about a TTC timeline: "Anything works, as long as I can guide Stage through the darkness." |
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Post by GoneFishing on Jan 22, 2014 10:53:01 GMT -5
kwith, I swear some days I think your entire purpose in life was to get pregnant before me and make me feel better about all the stuff that scares me.
Sending you comfy vibes for your last few weeks! That's pretty much what I told H when we were talking about a TTC timeline: "Anything works, as long as I can guide Stage through the darkness." I wanted to make some sort of comment about you being my personal pregnancy super hero and post a pic or gif. But then I searched "pregnant superhero".  Nevermind. |
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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 10:54:01 GMT -5
Reading all this eases my mind a little. Now I know what to expect in 6 month's time. If it's any comfort, as miserable as I am, first trimester morning sickness was worse. ETA: I realize that doesn't help you right now, but will hopefully help you as you anticipate your last month. |
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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 11:11:37 GMT -5
kwith - you're so close, and this is really the worst part. Labour is actually easier to deal with because there's progress...
Blocked milk duct = try some hot compresses. There's not much else you can actually do for it now. If it happens after baby kwith you can pump/have her nurse it better. You can't use a pump right now because the nipple stimulation can bring on labour. Take it easy; put your feet up when you can. It's your right - you're making a person, that deserves some pampering! That's what I'm going to try tonight. I had read the same thing about it this morning and didn't have the energy to put one together then. Yet another reason life might be a little better once baby kwith arrives! |
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Post by minion on Jan 22, 2014 11:30:35 GMT -5
No wisdom for me. But I appreciate you sharing. It sounds really hard, but you can do it! Almost there.
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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 11:33:07 GMT -5
Massaging the area should help loosen it as well, if you can bear to touch it. But if the area is red or really sore to the touch you'll need to see a doc. Good news is that you've got working mammaries! Thanks! I hadn't tried massaging because I didn't want to touch it, but it's not super sore so I'm going to try to subtly massage while at work. Here's hoping no one comes by! |
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Post by kwith on Jan 22, 2014 11:38:13 GMT -5
Oh my god, @jennylee, I love you. I just massaged for about three minutes and it feels a million times better. Still tender but not nearly as sore.
Also, you all now know what I've done with the last three minutes of my life. Pregnancy = oversharing. Hope we're all comfy with that.
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Post by kwith on Jan 23, 2014 11:54:10 GMT -5
New complaint of the day - baby kwith keeps digging her foot in to my rib cage. For a while, if I pushed back against her, she'd back off and I'd feel better. But now whenever I push back she reacts by punching me in what feels like my ovary. Girl, this body is clearly not big enough for the two of us anymore. Time to come out.
At least this one is kind of a funny complaint, not just an uncomfortable one.
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Post by kwith on Jan 23, 2014 14:24:38 GMT -5
By this logic, Frenchie and @jennylee, baby kwith is going to be a gymnast. Or at least do a lot of handstands. |
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Post by nsweare on Jan 23, 2014 18:22:20 GMT -5
By this logic, Frenchie and @jennylee, baby kwith is going to be a gymnast. Or at least do a lot of handstands. DD was upside down almost the whole pregnancy. She used to grab onto my hipbones. She was super active. And on the outside she's been doing somersaults since she was 17 months old and is always on the go. I would bet you have a future gymnast on your hands if she's like that now. So exciting! |
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Post by kwith on Jan 24, 2014 12:03:50 GMT -5
So i went to the doc today and pretty much officially have a milk duct infection. This isn't supposed to happen before nursing. FML. I have an ultrasound monday to make sure it's nothing worse. Not what i want to be dealing with in my last weeks of pregnancy.
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Post by paris on Jan 24, 2014 12:29:48 GMT -5
That sucks, pretty lady  Sending you get healthy vibes. I hope it is not as bad as it can be. |
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Post by GoneFishing on Jan 24, 2014 14:36:08 GMT -5
New complaint of the day - baby kwith keeps digging her foot in to my rib cage. For a while, if I pushed back against her, she'd back off and I'd feel better. But now whenever I push back she reacts by punching me in what feels like my ovary. Girl, this body is clearly not big enough for the two of us anymore. Time to come out. At least this one is kind of a funny complaint, not just an uncomfortable one. this reminds of when I was pregnant and each baby inside me was so different, and it matched their personalities Particularly DD#3 and DD#2 DD#2 in utero was flippin', twirlin. kickin' punchin' and came early, I likened it to she was afraid she was missing something and wanted to join the party. And to this day, she is still this way. Can't sit still, wants to know what is going on, and really nosy lol DD#3 rarely moved at, so little we were afraid there might be a problem. She was late too, had to induce and eventually had a C-section. No worries..why would you want to leave a place that's cozy, quiet, and warm?? To this day, she is mellow, not a worrier, content to just chill Not sure what your little ballerina has in store for you momma!Street Fighter!  ETA: sorry to hear that your boob is infected, but at least it's something with a relatively easy (if not quick) fix. |
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Sending you get healthy vibes. I hope it is not as bad as it can be.