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Post by nsweare on Apr 30, 2015 11:21:28 GMT -5
It's just so weird. For all intents and purposes I SHOULD look super pregnant. This isn't my first, I'm only five feet tall, I'm short waisted, have narrow hips, and have only gained in the belly. All of these things together, I should have a big ole round belly full of baby. I mean, I look pregnant for sure. But I barely look 6 months. I was the same way with DD so it shouldn't be a surprise. I just figured I'd be bigger this time because it's my second. I have my growth scan in a couple weeks, so it will be interesting to see if BB2 is as small as I look.
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Post by ktmac on Apr 30, 2015 12:09:09 GMT -5
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Post by nsweare on Apr 30, 2015 13:14:31 GMT -5
ktmac that's a cool video!
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Post by kristenkay on Apr 30, 2015 13:24:14 GMT -5
ktmac that is so neat! Also, for me--I felt like I started showing around 12-13 weeks, but then my belly really popped after 19 weeks, and I'm huge now at almost 33 weeks. Someone just told me in the kitchen at work that I look like I'm going to pop  . And then I told her I had 7 weeks to go and she was all oh wow  . Thanks lady, way to make me feel good about myself. I only like to hear comments about my belly that are followed by how cute I look lol.
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Post by kristenkay on Apr 30, 2015 14:08:36 GMT -5
@daubachsgirl23 efmcc67 right? I mean it's no secret that many pregnant women's bellies get big, why is it so astonishing that people feel the need to comment. Like a year ago one of the girls from my wedding month group posted a pic of her tiny baby bump at like 12 weeks looking super adorable and here were a couple of the comments: U sure there is only one??? Super adorable! Only 11 weeks, really?? My co-worker is at about 4 or 5 months and showing about what you are now! Her response: 12 weeks in a few days which is 3 months...every body is different  Thanks ladies! I thought she had a very good response and if I remember correctly one of the girls made more comments after that about how she looked like she was having twins. It would have made me really mad! |
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Post by nsweare on May 14, 2015 8:49:51 GMT -5
This might be a little TMI, but am wondering if anyone else is dealing with sex issues during pregnancy. I wasn't feeling very sexual during the first trimester (constant vomit will do that), so H and I didn't really have sex until the second trimester. Even then, my sex drive was really low, but once we got going I could get into it. Now, in my third trimester, I have NO desire and can't even get into it when we do. The only position that is even remotely comfortable is missionary, but then my stomach gets in the way. I can't be on top because my hips feels like they are going to dislocate. From behind hurts for some reason. Is anyone else having difficulties with intimacy?
I feel really bad because H is patient and never complains about the lack of sex, but I know it has to bother him. I feel guilty because I would be 100% ok if we didn't have sex again until after this baby is born. But that means no sex for the next 5 weeks of pregnancy and then several weeks post-partum. He also feels bad because I seem to be incapable of having an O. Haven't had one this whole pregnancy. He keeps asking what he can do, but it's just not going to happen. I try to explain that it's just hormones and that things will get better, but I can tell he feels guilty like it's something he's doing wrong. Anyway, I was wondering if I'm just crazy, or if this is truly a hormonal thing. FWIW, I never had these issues when pregnant with DD.
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Post by nsweare on May 14, 2015 9:04:12 GMT -5
Yeah nsweare. I'm sure part of it is exhaustion, part of it is being constantly annoyed lately, but I just haven't been feelin' it. We've had sex twice in the past... oh jeez, 3 months? And that was back to back nights. I want to try harder because I know it'll be more difficult once the belly gets in the way but... sleep. I just want to sleep. Yes. I'm just so fucking tired all the time too. Sleep is always going to win over sex right now. |
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Post by vk on May 14, 2015 9:24:40 GMT -5
nsweare you are not alone. Sex was like a chore that I didn't want to do when I was pregnant. But then once in a blue moon I would be up for it. Try not to feel guilty. Maybe you can take care of H in other ways?
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2015 10:10:15 GMT -5
nsweare - I'm on "pelvic rest" until at least the 22nd of this month and have been...so no sex here. I feel horrible about it (and would LOVE to have sex) but its not allowed.
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Post by ktmac on May 14, 2015 10:42:38 GMT -5
nsweare - I'm on "pelvic rest" until at least the 22nd of this month and have been...so no sex here. I feel horrible about it (and would LOVE to have sex) but its not allowed. Week 8 of pelvic rest for me with no end in sight yet - Hopeful that at my A/S they'll clear us. Please legit feel sorry for my husband. |
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Post by nsweare on May 14, 2015 11:17:40 GMT -5
@daubachsgirl23 - I kind of know what you mean about not really wanting to be touched. I feel gross. The HG gives me a horrid taste in my mouth at all times and there is nothing I can do about it. I don't like kissing H because I'm afraid he can taste it too. He's never said anything, but it's still a fear. Plus I can't groom myself as often or as well as I'd like which definitely doesn't make me feel sexy. I don't mind some light cuddling, just to be close to him, but I fell asleep on his chest the other week and drooled all over him. GAH! Not sexy.
@drexelkathy, ktmac - I'm sorry about the pelvic rest. I was on it for a few weeks during the early days of my first trimester because I had some spotting. Honestly, it was kind of a relief because I didn't want to have sex anyway and it made me feel less guilty. I mean, it's doctor's orders right?
vk - I would like to find other ways to pleasure H, but I'm so exhausted the thought of doing much of anything is such a turnoff. There's no way I could give him oral because of the HG. I could do hand stuff but that really seems like a lot of work. I don't mean to sound selfish; I'm just so tired and uncomfortable! |
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Post by nsweare on May 14, 2015 12:13:58 GMT -5
@daubachsgirl23 - I kind of know what you mean about not really wanting to be touched. I feel gross. The HG gives me a horrid taste in my mouth at all times and there is nothing I can do about it. I don't like kissing H because I'm afraid he can taste it too. He's never said anything, but it's still a fear. Plus I can't groom myself as often or as well as I'd like which definitely doesn't make me feel sexy. I don't mind some light cuddling, just to be close to him, but I fell asleep on his chest the other week and drooled all over him. GAH! Not sexy.
@drexelkathy, ktmac - I'm sorry about the pelvic rest. I was on it for a few weeks during the early days of my first trimester because I had some spotting. Honestly, it was kind of a relief because I didn't want to have sex anyway and it made me feel less guilty. I mean, it's doctor's orders right?
vk - I would like to find other ways to pleasure H, but I'm so exhausted the thought of doing much of anything is such a turnoff. There's no way I could give him oral because of the HG. I could do hand stuff but that really seems like a lot of work. I don't mean to sound selfish; I'm just so tired and uncomfortable! UGH that is me, too. It's so gross, and it makes me feel disgusting. I feel like I chew gum constantly, but it helps for 5 minutes and that's it. Yes! I can't chew gum, but I used to suck on lemon candies until they started making me sick too. My mouth still feels gross even after brushing my teeth. My mouth never feels clean. I know this awful taste contributes to the nausea. |
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Post by kristenkay on May 14, 2015 16:07:20 GMT -5
nsweare Don't feel bad about not being in the mood! Especially with your HG you have a lot going on and I'm sure your H understands. We definitely slowed things down during the first tri when I had morning sickness. 2nd and 3rd tri my sex drive has totally increased higher than normal and I've been the one initiating it all of the time. H was a little reluctant a few times because it's gotten more challenging with this beach ball between us--but I told him I'm getting it while I can! I'm sure I'll be back to my normal sex drive or even less after baby is here.
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Post by vk on May 15, 2015 5:41:44 GMT -5
@daubachsgirl23 - I kind of know what you mean about not really wanting to be touched. I feel gross. The HG gives me a horrid taste in my mouth at all times and there is nothing I can do about it. I don't like kissing H because I'm afraid he can taste it too. He's never said anything, but it's still a fear. Plus I can't groom myself as often or as well as I'd like which definitely doesn't make me feel sexy. I don't mind some light cuddling, just to be close to him, but I fell asleep on his chest the other week and drooled all over him. GAH! Not sexy.
@drexelkathy, ktmac - I'm sorry about the pelvic rest. I was on it for a few weeks during the early days of my first trimester because I had some spotting. Honestly, it was kind of a relief because I didn't want to have sex anyway and it made me feel less guilty. I mean, it's doctor's orders right?
vk - I would like to find other ways to pleasure H, but I'm so exhausted the thought of doing much of anything is such a turnoff. There's no way I could give him oral because of the HG. I could do hand stuff but that really seems like a lot of work. I don't mean to sound selfish; I'm just so tired and uncomfortable! lol trust me I get it. sometimes actual sex is easier than everything else. You are not selfish at all. |
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. And then I told her I had 7 weeks to go and she was all oh wow 
. Thanks lady, way to make me feel good about myself. I only like to hear comments about my belly that are followed by how cute I look lol.
Thanks ladies!
