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Post by jenn314 on Feb 16, 2016 10:53:26 GMT -5
We're out for a while. BIL just set a wedding date and it's the worst timing for us. I'm glad he's getting married, but I'm bummed it means we have to wait.
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 16, 2016 11:29:50 GMT -5
We're out for a while. BIL just set a wedding date and it's the worst timing for us. I'm glad he's getting married, but I'm bummed it means we have to wait. Personally I would not push back ttc due to a wedding.
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Post by jenn314 on Feb 16, 2016 12:06:36 GMT -5
I think if it was any other wedding, I'd be on that bench. It's just that it's H's only sibling. And H is going to be the best man. So we're probably going to wait. Before it was a bigger issue because we'd potentially be traveling OOT (flying). Now it's only 40 minutes from where we live so we could make it work, and we'll just avoid that month.
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 16, 2016 12:44:14 GMT -5
I'm that person who didn't even push back TTC for my own wedding We got lazy about BC and had pretty much stopped all prevention measures by 6 months before. I had already bought my dress. I figured at my age (37 at the time) it might take a while so it was a worthwhile risk to take. We NTNP'd and then started TTC seriously right after the wedding.
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Post by ven on Feb 16, 2016 13:14:42 GMT -5
This I might do. Seriously- for a PPD (not that it'd be okay even if it wasn't a PPD) she did that? I don't think I'll ever understand that mindset. My MOH found out she was pregnant the month after she bought her MOH dress. She was the only person in my wedding party, and they were TTC so she'd leaned towards dresses that would be comfortable should she end up pregnant. (I hadn't known this, I'd just gone dress shopping with her and let her pick out anything she wanted, for the most part). She told me she was pregnant two months before the wedding at our dress fittings. I was SO excited for her! I did, admittedly, panic when her dress no longer fit her a week and a half before the wedding, but we were able to get a size larger dress rush-shipped with no alterations needed. My back up plan was that she'd just go get another dress off the rack. There was no 'attention stealing.' Sure, people congratulated her and wished her well, as she was definitely showing at that point (5+ months) but people didn't just ignore me and H bc someone else was pregnant in the wedding. There are many things I regret with my MOH, having her in my wedding while pregnant was not one of them. Her sister is a GIANT bitch. When my friend called her with the news she went into a screaming rage, accused her of purposely trying to ruin her wedding and make everything about her. Said she would kick her out of the wedding. Finally ended up pushing the wedding back and insisting that my friend not talk at all about her baby at the wedding and hire an all-day babysitter. I wouldnt have gone to the wedding if I was your friend.
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Post by jenn314 on Feb 16, 2016 13:21:07 GMT -5
As of right now, we're out May, June, and half of July because of the Zika virus. My OB/GYN as of last week is recommending waiting 12 weeks after getting back from an infected area before TTC. So unless something changes and depending on timing, we will most likely get July in. The wedding is May. I counted out weeks and if I stay on my current schedule, that leaves September, October and possibly August out. So it's just a few extra months. Because we're not flying, it's just probably two months, but it depends on how things are going at that point. Finger's crossed my body isn't a dick (which it can be at times).
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 16, 2016 13:39:55 GMT -5
She also tried to get my friend to foot several thousand dollars toward her PPD. Called her and said "the wedding should cost this much, I have this much saved, so then it's $x from mom and dad and $x from you." Yeahhhhhhh no. No no no. Not how this works. I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW PEOPLE ACT LIKE THAT. All caps is necessary. That is craziness!!! OMG, screw family obligations. If any sister of mine did this to me I'd drop out of that wedding sooooooo fast!
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Post by annathy03 on Feb 16, 2016 20:34:17 GMT -5
OMG, screw family obligations. If any sister of mine did this to me I'd drop out of that wedding sooooooo fast! Oh trust me, I was FIRMLY on the side of "well fuck her then, guess I'm your sister now." She said I was the only person she had told about her pregnancy at that point who was happy for her. I don't care what the conflict is - I can't imagine being anything but over the moon excited if my sister said she was pregnant. WHAT THE HELL IS THIS SHIT?! My god lolo your friends sister is horrific. Although moving a date when you don't have anything booked isn't really moving it. I mean if it is I "moved" my wedding for my sister's pregnancy but nothing was booked yet, no biggie. Her being there was more important than pushing an arbitrary timeline that was based on "engagements are about a year, right?". TBH I was cautiously happy for my sis until I knew how she felt about it better- she was not exactly excited initially, processing took a bit and looking back if we hadn't been tentatively planning for her due date month I don't think she would have said anything for another week or two- but when it's 100% for sure good news to them there's no acceptable reaction that isn't along the lines of "OMG that's awesome!".
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Post by LMC on Feb 19, 2016 11:39:37 GMT -5
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 19, 2016 13:38:10 GMT -5
I'm sorry susanm. I understand your frustration. I set up a specialist appointment after 4 failed cycles just to be proactive because there was a 3 month wait for appointments and I'm 38 and was really worried. Cycle #6 ended up being the magical one for us, and I got to cancel the appointment. It's a very personal decision whether to go down that route, but personally it gave me peace of mind knowing I had a plan B lined up and ready. Wishing you the best!
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 19, 2016 13:49:43 GMT -5
I'm sorry susanm . I understand your frustration. I set up a specialist appointment after 4 failed cycles just to be proactive because there was a 3 month wait for appointments and I'm 38 and was really worried. Cycle #6 ended up being the magical one for us, and I got to cancel the appointment. It's a very personal decision whether to go down that route, but personally it gave me peace of mind knowing I had a plan B lined up and ready. Wishing you the best! Thanks gingerlady ! I thought about calling to set up an appointment just so we have it and then cancelling if needed, (whether through a BFP or deciding to wait on that) but since my practice is OB/GYN/IF, I can really just make an appointment with my own doctor fairly quickly and go from there. So for now I am avoiding that phone call. That's great that it's so convenient. IF is part of my OB practice too, but their services are in such high demand that there is still a long wait for appointments. Good luck to you in moving forward whenever you feel comfortable! And fingers crossed that cycle #6 is the lucky one and it will all be unnecessary!
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 19, 2016 14:45:22 GMT -5
Thanks ladies. It means a lot. This one has made me the saddest yet for some reason. I wanted to just crawl back into bed this morning after realizing CD1. On to Cycle #6. If it doesn't work this time, we'll have some decisions to make (I'm AMA so we have the option of going to next steps after this 6th month rather than wait until a year). Hopefully cycle 6 is the lucky one. I was surprised how fast my doctor let me start getting blood work started since I was only ttc for 9 months.
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