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Post by snippet17 on Mar 2, 2016 20:44:12 GMT -5
Vent
Someone DH works with asked him that maybe the ultrasound is wrong and we are having kids. H said another employee gave that employee such a horrible look that if looks could kill that one would. She said sorry I forgot, but still not cool lady not cool at all. Of course I started crying after he told me that. She maybe met well, but people sometimes need to think before they say anything.
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 2, 2016 21:34:01 GMT -5
thanks guys!
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 3, 2016 10:53:32 GMT -5
I am getting H a push gift just due to the fact that he has been so helpful this whole pregnancy. I know it is not traditional for the mom to give the dad a gift, but we are not very traditional. I have some amazon gift cards so I plan to buy on there. I was thinking of just getting him some dice with the baby's birth stone color. Does this sound like a dumb gift? Keep in mind H plays both Warhammer 40K and D&D so dice are always useful.
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Post by chipmunk on Mar 3, 2016 10:55:15 GMT -5
I am getting H a push gift just due to the fact that he has been so helpful this whole pregnancy. I know it is not traditional for the mom to give the dad a gift, but we are not very traditional. I have some amazon gift cards so I plan to buy on there. I was thinking of just getting him some dice with the baby's birth stone color. Does this sound like a dumb gift? Keep in mind H plays both Warhammer 40K and D&D so dice are always useful. That doesn't sound dumb, that sounds thoughtful and an adorable way to tie an activity your H enjoys with an important life event  |
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Post by chipmunk on Mar 3, 2016 12:56:42 GMT -5
I'm looking into some Daddy's Girl stuff for DH, but haven't found the perfect item yet.
And I'm ready to smack my Dad again. Mom checked her immuno records....the TDAP was not amongst the ones she got boosters on last year, and it's been a good 30 years since she had a booster (after she stopped working in hospitals). She's going to the local health department to get the vax, and Dad's bitching. Not because he's anti-vax, but because HE didn't make the recommendation that she get a booster, (damn doctor egos) and it'll cost $50 for her to get it done (all injections, vaccines, etc are free for him through the VA).
Mom's response has been that she doesn't care about the cost, she's not letting a little thing like a vaccine booster keep her from seeing her grandchild, and she certainly won't take the risk of passing anything on to chipmunchkin. (she'll be at our house 2 days a week after I go back to work, so she's one of the "regular interaction" people the OB recommended should get a booster).
If I hear snide comments from him this weekend, he may learn that his polite, quiet daughter can be just as snarky as he is, and that in my capacity as mother to be, I can and will go into psycho bitch mode in protection and defense of my child.
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Post by chipmunk on Mar 3, 2016 13:30:18 GMT -5
He's SERIOUSLY getting upset that it will cost $50 for his grandchild to be protected against diseases that are life-threatening to a baby? WTAF? These things are known about my Dad:
1) he has severe control issues, borderline with them being classified as part of a mental health concern.
2) he forgets that some of us have to pay for certain parts of our healthcare (all of his cancer treatments have been courtesy of the US government, due to his military disability status and subsequent government covered care)
3) relating to #1, if he doesn't have something to complain about, he'll find something.
90% of the time, my Dad is overall a reasonable person. It's 10% of the time, like this, when he gets asinine and has to be put back in his place. He's not seeing the big picture of "protect the baby." He's seeing the "my wife is being 'inconvenienced' (despite her claims it's not a problem) and forced to pay out money for a booster that I didn't recommend/think she needed." Oy.
Family can be awesome and a massive pain in the ass at the same damn time.
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 3, 2016 14:05:24 GMT -5
I am getting H a push gift just due to the fact that he has been so helpful this whole pregnancy. I know it is not traditional for the mom to give the dad a gift, but we are not very traditional. I have some amazon gift cards so I plan to buy on there. I was thinking of just getting him some dice with the baby's birth stone color. Does this sound like a dumb gift? Keep in mind H plays both Warhammer 40K and D&D so dice are always useful. That sounds adorable! If they sell dice that comes as a faceted replica birthstone, like one that looks like an aquamarine! Ops forgot that I was getting the sets (one for angel and one for rainbow baby) in birthstone colors. |
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 3, 2016 14:07:57 GMT -5
I'm looking into some Daddy's Girl stuff for DH, but haven't found the perfect item yet. And I'm ready to smack my Dad again. Mom checked her immuno records....the TDAP was not amongst the ones she got boosters on last year, and it's been a good 30 years since she had a booster (after she stopped working in hospitals). She's going to the local health department to get the vax, and Dad's bitching. Not because he's anti-vax, but because HE didn't make the recommendation that she get a booster, (damn doctor egos) and it'll cost $50 for her to get it done (all injections, vaccines, etc are free for him through the VA). Mom's response has been that she doesn't care about the cost, she's not letting a little thing like a vaccine booster keep her from seeing her grandchild, and she certainly won't take the risk of passing anything on to chipmunchkin. (she'll be at our house 2 days a week after I go back to work, so she's one of the "regular interaction" people the OB recommended should get a booster). If I hear snide comments from him this weekend, he may learn that his polite, quiet daughter can be just as snarky as he is, and that in my capacity as mother to be, I can and will go into psycho bitch mode in protection and defense of my child. It might be cheaper for her to go to Rite Aid. I know my co-worker had to get a tdap because of his niece. I think he paid $40 for it. I know it is not much cheaper. I am sorry your dad is giving you snide comments. I would have called him out for it, but it would not be the first time I called my dad an ass hole. |
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Post by chipmunk on Mar 3, 2016 14:19:26 GMT -5
It might be cheaper for her to go to Rite Aid. I know my co-worker had to get a tdap because of his niece. I think he paid $40 for it. I know it is not much cheaper. I am sorry your dad is giving you snide comments. I would have called him out for it, but it would not be the first time I called my dad an ass hole. No Rite Aids in their town, but thank you.
Dad's been acting the pain "teasing" me over the choice of name. I'll have opportunity to call him on it (as being "old" and "im tired of it) this weekend.
The vaccine comments thus far were directed at my mom. We'll see if he behaves himself when I'm up there. If I had to get flu shots and whatnot before my mom would let me, DH, or half sibs into the house when he was getting radiation and chemo, and I did it without a peep of protest, he can STFU and sit quietly while mom gets the TDAP update.
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 3, 2016 14:41:28 GMT -5
It might be cheaper for her to go to Rite Aid. I know my co-worker had to get a tdap because of his niece. I think he paid $40 for it. I know it is not much cheaper. I am sorry your dad is giving you snide comments. I would have called him out for it, but it would not be the first time I called my dad an ass hole. No Rite Aids in their town, but thank you.
Dad's been acting the pain "teasing" me over the choice of name. I'll have opportunity to call him on it (as being "old" and "im tired of it) this weekend.
The vaccine comments thus far were directed at my mom. We'll see if he behaves himself when I'm up there. If I had to get flu shots and whatnot before my mom would let me, DH, or half sibs into the house when he was getting radiation and chemo, and I did it without a peep of protest, he can STFU and sit quietly while mom gets the TDAP update.
I should add do not use my way with speaking to ones parents unless you are okay with a rocky relationship. But its not cool for him to get so upset when your mom has no issues with it and its her body. |
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