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Post by jenn314 on Feb 29, 2016 12:25:39 GMT -5
My coworker asked me if I planned to have kids anytime soon today. What a loaded question that I'm not answering honestly at my place of employment! Only a few more weeks until my appointment with my OB/GYN to hear about the latest recommendations regarding our cruise. We had dinner over the weekend with my ILs and THEY brought up the Zika virus. I kicked H under the table when he started talking about potentially staying on the ship and my MIL was all "why would you do that?" I don't think I've ever changed a subject so fast.
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Post by LMC on Feb 29, 2016 12:33:07 GMT -5
My coworker asked me if I planned to have kids anytime soon today. What a loaded question that I'm not answering honestly at my place of employment! Only a few more weeks until my appointment with my OB/GYN to hear about the latest recommendations regarding our cruise. We had dinner over the weekend with my ILs and THEY brought up the Zika virus. I kicked H under the table when he started talking about potentially staying on the ship and my MIL was all "why would you do that?" I don't think I've ever changed a subject so fast. That question drives me up a fucking wall.
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 29, 2016 12:44:10 GMT -5
My coworker asked me if I planned to have kids anytime soon today. What a loaded question that I'm not answering honestly at my place of employment! Only a few more weeks until my appointment with my OB/GYN to hear about the latest recommendations regarding our cruise. We had dinner over the weekend with my ILs and THEY brought up the Zika virus. I kicked H under the table when he started talking about potentially staying on the ship and my MIL was all "why would you do that?" I don't think I've ever changed a subject so fast. That question drives me up a fucking wall. Agreed. MYOFB.
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 29, 2016 12:45:46 GMT -5
My coworker asked me if I planned to have kids anytime soon today. What a loaded question that I'm not answering honestly at my place of employment! Only a few more weeks until my appointment with my OB/GYN to hear about the latest recommendations regarding our cruise. We had dinner over the weekend with my ILs and THEY brought up the Zika virus. I kicked H under the table when he started talking about potentially staying on the ship and my MIL was all "why would you do that?" I don't think I've ever changed a subject so fast. I got asked about that from contractors all the time. It is fucking rude. I never told any of them that I was pregnant and was still asked (not sure if they knew via other sources). I wish I could tell them the truth about some of the issues that have occurred with me but honestly I am not that blunt at work and I hate them knowing my personal life.
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Post by jenn314 on Feb 29, 2016 13:16:30 GMT -5
My coworker asked me if I planned to have kids anytime soon today. What a loaded question that I'm not answering honestly at my place of employment! Only a few more weeks until my appointment with my OB/GYN to hear about the latest recommendations regarding our cruise. We had dinner over the weekend with my ILs and THEY brought up the Zika virus. I kicked H under the table when he started talking about potentially staying on the ship and my MIL was all "why would you do that?" I don't think I've ever changed a subject so fast. My mom has been sending me/my sisters articles about Zika. Her emails always start with "I know none of you are pregnant, but..." (I haven't told her yet that I'm pregnant). The news that it can be sexually transmitted is scary to me. I was reading something about how in women, it's pretty easy to tell when the virus is out of your system, but in men they don't know how long it can stay in sperm after it's contracted. I was telling H last night that we need to be really diligent about repellent, once we start noticing mosquitoes (which will probably be soon). I don't think it's made its way to the gulf coast yet (all the confirmed cases in my county were contracted in Latin/Central America) but better safe than sorry. This is what's terrifying to me. H and I wanted to start trying ASAP once we got back, but now it's a lot harder because so many people never show symptoms. And they don't know how long, so it's scary.
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Post by gingerlady on Feb 29, 2016 17:30:37 GMT -5
Ugh, don't get me started on how much I abhor the "you better get moving on that soon" comment. I got married at 37, so I heard NO END of comments along those lines. And now that I'm pregnant I've gotten a lot of "I'm glad you didn't wait for too much longer" comments. Yeah, thanks for making me even more anxious than I already am about my aging ovaries, people! Hrmph.
Fingers crossed for all of you ladies!
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Post by ven on Feb 29, 2016 17:52:57 GMT -5
I'm so glad I work with males who don't give a single fuck about what's happening in my uterus. I'm sorry you guys have to deal with nosy coworkers.As for the zika virus, I'm not happy that Brazil has one of the (if not the) highest number of cases. I want to go visit my family, but with us hoping to be able to TTC in the next year, there is no way I'm going to risk it. Ditto this. Someday, I'm going to end up going off on some random asshole who asks if I'm pregnant. I regret not doing it to the bitch who asked me last year at the grocery store, who tried to get me thrown out of the store because I said I wasn't pregnant.
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Post by mrsELF6713 on Feb 29, 2016 17:58:10 GMT -5
sorry you had to deal with that jenn314. we say the same thing eba1012... although my parents were serious about doing that, so we dropped that response with them. CD29 for me; most likely will start in the next day or two. If nothing by Friday I will POAS, but since we are NTNP stage I am not temping and have no idea when I O'd. I'm thinking maybe around CD13-15, but not sure; So I am still pretty clueless about everything!
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Post by snippet17 on Feb 29, 2016 18:12:12 GMT -5
I'm so glad I work with males who don't give a single fuck about what's happening in my uterus. I'm sorry you guys have to deal with nosy coworkers. As for the zika virus, I'm not happy that Brazil has one of the (if not the) highest number of cases. I want to go visit my family, but with us hoping to be able to TTC in the next year, there is no way I'm going to risk it. All of my contractors are men. But they gossip so much I think at times they could be teenage girls. Hopefully they find out more information about the Zika virus so that no one is worried about traveling and either are ttc or pregnant.
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Post by gingerlady on Mar 1, 2016 12:21:35 GMT -5
susanm Sounds like a productive conversation and like you have a good plan in place! And YAY for such good lab results! FYI from the people I know who have had HSGs, they don't sound like they are that bad (though I'm not speaking from personal experience). Fingers crossed for this month being YOUR cycle, still!
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 1, 2016 13:13:51 GMT -5
susanm - Yay for the productive conservation with the doctor. I heard the blue dye test can hurt a little (I would hate lying to you), but it is not that bad.
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Post by LMC on Mar 1, 2016 14:48:03 GMT -5
susanm - I'm glad you had a great meeting. I think different people have different experiences with the HSG. For me, it was extremely uncomfortable bordering on pretty painful. HOWEVER, mine was unusual. I had dye get stuck in my tubes because they're blocked AND there was a part of my uterus that didn't seem to be filling, so she shot a lot of extra dye in there. Without that, I think it would have been mildly uncomfortable at worst. I had some cramping for a couple days after, but nothing worse than period cramping. I will tell you that, although we kept trying even through testing, the HSG screwed up my cycle for that month. Just as a heads up.
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Post by mrsELF6713 on Mar 1, 2016 14:51:02 GMT -5
Glad you had a good appointment today susanm!
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 1, 2016 21:43:33 GMT -5
Oh, they gossip like it's going out of style. But at least my uterus has never been brought up (at least in front of me). One of our clients had the nerve to ask our PM if the baby his wife was expecting was planned!!! I could not believe it. I work with graduate students at an elite institution. One of my 35 year old students asked me if my pregnancy was planned. Another, who is in her 60s, told me I needed to just quit my job and stay home with the baby or else I would always regret it. I mean, that's what I'm doing, but it was totally none of her business.What if my pregnancy wasn't planned (or wanted)? Or what if I can't afford to quit my job and stay at home (like MILLIONS of women)? Or if I just didn't want to? I swear, people don't mind their business. I would ask that person to pay my bills for the time you would be a stay at home mom.
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Post by gingerlady on Mar 2, 2016 7:52:52 GMT -5
In my professional world everyone would always assume that I will go back to work, full time, and with as short a leave as possible. The only flack I've gotten has been for opting to take 3 months of maternity leave.
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 2, 2016 12:33:14 GMT -5
I had already decided to leave my job (long commute, shitty bosses) and assess the situation, maybe take a year before I go back. But she didn't know that. We are fortunate that it is feasible for us, but it isn't for so many. If I had been feeling snappier, I would've asked if I could send her my mortgage bills, but I refrained. And I mean, honestly, some women don't *want* to be SAHM's. Some women want to work. And that's okay too. Guilting a woman who works because she needs or wants to work is so shitty. I agree. If one can be a SAHM great, if one wants to be a working mom great. I have told people that we are one and done and I had comments about that. Mind your own fucking business. If someone wants one kid or five it really should not matter to you. They will stay well your child will be so spoiled, the bond with siblings, etc. etc. I look at them with a straight face and tell them I am an only child. That usually shuts them up.
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Post by gingerlady on Mar 2, 2016 12:33:45 GMT -5
I had already decided to leave my job (long commute, shitty bosses) and assess the situation, maybe take a year before I go back. But she didn't know that. We are fortunate that it is feasible for us, but it isn't for so many. If I had been feeling snappier, I would've asked if I could send her my mortgage bills, but I refrained. And I mean, honestly, some women don't *want* to be SAHM's. Some women want to work. And that's okay too. Guilting a woman who works because she needs or wants to work is so shitty. ^^ Me. I want to keep working! I can't imagine doing it any other way because I spent countless years training to get here. But I think we all feel the pressure both ways - some say we should all SAH, some say we should all work. You can't make everyone happy, but you can make YOURSELF happy because that's what matters.
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Post by LMC on Mar 2, 2016 14:45:47 GMT -5
If one more person asks me when we're going to have kids, the next gift I'm going to need you guys to send me is bail money.
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Post by snippet17 on Mar 2, 2016 15:11:15 GMT -5
The things that people think are their business is astounding to me. So much pressure is put on women especially concerning children. Are you going to have children? How many? Better have them soon. But once you have them, stay at home. But if you stay at home, you're not really working (not my opinion at all, but I've heard idiots say this). Breastfeed. But only where we can't see it (again, not my opinion). If you don't breastfeed, you're a terrible parent (not my opinion). People need to shut up and stop judging and guilting women. And you should never co-sleep, but you also shouldn't sleep train. And you should never give them solid foods before 6 months unless you want them to sleep, but then it'll make them obese. You're always going to be doing something wrong, pissing someone off... Yes to all of this. H and I plan for the baby to sleep in her room without us always in it as soon as we get home. So many people look at us like we are horrible parents. H and I did save the twin bed mattress and fitting sheets if one of us ends up sleeping in that room with her but damn don't make us seem like we are the worst parents in the world because we do not have room in our bedroom for a basset or crib.
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Post by LMC on Mar 2, 2016 15:27:17 GMT -5
And you should never co-sleep, but you also shouldn't sleep train. And you should never give them solid foods before 6 months unless you want them to sleep, but then it'll make them obese. You're always going to be doing something wrong, pissing someone off... Yes to all of this. H and I plan for the baby to sleep in her room without us always in it as soon as we get home. So many people look at us like we are horrible parents. H and I did save the twin bed mattress and fitting sheets if one of us ends up sleeping in that room with her but damn don't make us seem like we are the worst parents in the world because we do not have room in our bedroom for a basset or crib. That was always our plan. No sleeping in our room. At best, we might have a single bed in the nursery in case I would get up close to DH's wake time since he'll go back to work right away and I just want to lay down to nurse, etc. and not come back in to wake him up.
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