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Post by snippet17 on May 4, 2015 15:40:34 GMT -5
Its been years since I went off the pill so I forget what all occurred for me when I got on it.
But I have taken the after pill before when I couldn't remember if I took my pill or anytime a condom kind of moved on the penis.
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Post by snippet17 on May 5, 2015 8:45:09 GMT -5
You guys that have too many pregnant women at work should work for me. Our Michigan office is hiring! My one female co-worker tubes at tied and the other two don't want more kids and then there is me who has been trying for awhile.
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Post by snippet17 on May 5, 2015 11:19:21 GMT -5
My BEC co-worker will talk about me having babies any chance she gets. She will even say I will watch it. No, you were court ordered to not have custody of your child, no way in hell I am letting you watching my child. And since I don't ever see her outside of work, the likelihood she would met said child is slim to none.
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Post by kristenkay on May 5, 2015 12:43:55 GMT -5
Hi, folks! I am also benched, but for much crappier reasons. I had surgery for an Ectopic on March 31 and we have to wait 3 months. So not only can we not get pregnant, I don't even want to because the idea terrifies me too much. And yeah, basically everyone is pregnant. If I hear one more "we weren't even trying"!! or "I didn't even realize I was pregnant until 3 months!" or "wow, we got pregnant SOOOOOO fast, and it is SOOOOO easy". I may punch someone. It has always bothered me when people publicize that stuff! Not only is it especially insensitive to say to say to someone struggling with infertility, or who has had an ectopic or m/c, I feel like it's disrespectful to the baby. My SIL told us she was pregnant a couple of months ago and has told everyone that #1 was planned, #2 was an accident, and #3 was a date night . Ew, get your winky faces away from me, don't label your babies as accidents, and just don't say that to me when you know that I lost a baby just a few months back .
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Post by kristenkay on May 5, 2015 12:48:10 GMT -5
So fucking rude. I had one of the nurses at my doctor's office basically grill me about when my last period was, since it had technically been a month. She kept asking me if I was sure about the dates. Lady, just because I have a tummy pooch and all the boobs, doesn't mean that I was pregnant. And, FYI my period was due to start that afternoon which is why I was a total bitch to you. Why are people so rude? H and I got married in October. In September, my coworkers threw me a lovely bridal shower and the topic of conversation: "Soon enough we'll be throwing you a baby shower!" In the last month, no less than five people I work with have asked "So when are you guys going to have a baby?" and my favorite "You guys better not wait too long, you're not getting any younger." (I'm 34) One day I snapped at someone and said "How do you know I'm not already pregnant and just not wanting to tell anyone til after the first trimester? How do you know we haven't been trying with no success? How do you know I can even have kids, or better yet that we even want kids?" It wasn't my finest moment and I felt really bad, but I was just tired of the rude comments and assumptions. I think that's a totally appropriate response! People need to learn that it's not okay to make comments like that. I think it's okay to ask a friend if they want to have children one day, but wording is really important. You can't go around assuming everyone wants to and can easily have children. It just doesn't work that way and it's not okay to pry into someone's sex life/contraception plans.
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Post by snippet17 on May 5, 2015 15:34:33 GMT -5
Want to hear the worst thing ever? My grandmother told my mother that she would have aborted her if it had been legal at the time. Even if it's true, you NEVER SAY THAT! EVER! :eek: Wtf grandma wtf. :eek:
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Post by kristenkay on May 5, 2015 15:42:53 GMT -5
Some people have no boundaries. There was an article on yahoo earlier (can't find it now and I refused to read it then), but the title was something about a mother admitting that she didn't want her kids - a CW agreed with it. I was floored. And the number of people who've asked me if this baby is planned? None of your business.I've only ever asked friends/family if they've decided whether or not they'd like to try to have children. Only if I know them well, and only in that way. Seriously?! WTAF
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Post by kristenkay on May 6, 2015 9:30:20 GMT -5
@sarahufl that's so sweet, perfect response
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2015 16:39:53 GMT -5
My mom likes to joke that I'm the reason she talks about the importance of condoms.
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Post by nsweare on May 8, 2015 10:38:44 GMT -5
You guys, my mom put pictures in my baby book from the concert she and my dad went to the night I was conceived. Apparently when Boston sang More Than A Feeling, it really was.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2015 12:11:28 GMT -5
My sister and I were both planned, but apparently my parents were not expecting to get pregnant as quickly as they did. My mom has told me countless times how fertile the women in our family our. That's as much information as I need about that. Thankfully she's very conservative about sex, so I do not know how/where I was conceived. You're lucky you don't know. My mom is very open about sex and has no boundaries... so I know everything. Having parents who are super kick ass about sex talks is awesome until you hear about the time your sister was at grandma's for a week and your parents went on a "romantic meditation retreat".
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Post by nsweare on May 8, 2015 14:32:50 GMT -5
All this talk of whether babies were planned or not makes me a little anxious for the day DD asks if she was planned. I'm not going to lie to her, and obviously the info I give her will have to be appropriate for whatever age she is, but she certainly doesn't need the whole truth.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2015 15:06:19 GMT -5
All this talk of whether babies were planned or not makes me a little anxious for the day DD asks if she was planned. I'm not going to lie to her, and obviously the info I give her will have to be appropriate for whatever age she is, but she certainly doesn't need the whole truth. I never asked. She just thought it would be a fun story to tell.
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Post by ven on May 8, 2015 16:31:30 GMT -5
I strongly suspect I was a mistake (my parents deny it, though). I'm an only child and my dad got a vasectomy right after I was born. None of my parents' siblings reproduced. My entire extended family seems to be lacking the genetic imperative to procreate.
My mom's siblings think that the oldest 2 were planned. There's like an 8 year gap between my mom and her brother, who they think was a mistake. Finally, there is a youngest sister who they believe was conceived to "cover up" the mistake.
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Post by snippet17 on May 9, 2015 9:49:18 GMT -5
I am happy to not know when or where I was conceived. I do know that I was 16 days late and my aunt had her baby before my mom had hers and my mom wa s pregnant longer.
Dh knows the weekend his sister was conceived. His parents went on vacation and he was at his grandparents house for the weekend. 9 months later he got a baby sister. He wanted a brother or a puppy.
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Post by snippet17 on May 9, 2015 17:12:10 GMT -5
Nine month clothes? I'm curious but I'm also scared.. CN: He was really, really big, like no way any human could deliver vaginally. I don't know if I necessarily believe that he was really in nine month clothes at birth, but that's what MIL says. I know my cousin's first child was really big baby. I cannot remember how big he was at birth, but at 9 months he was already wearing 18-month-old clothes.
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Post by mrsELF6713 on May 12, 2015 18:54:45 GMT -5
hugs susanm, not lame and a total normal reaction. and ugh to the "OMG you are not drinking, you MUST be pregnant!" I hate that too. That is so sweet of SS @gildedcoyote! Mother's Day Brunch we were asked by pretty much everyone of when we are going to TTC. It sucks because in reality we would love to be open it to now--but financially its just not the right time. I really want to start getting blunt with people and tell them its none of their business. I know my younger self I was definitely one of those people though so I can't get too annoyed... but it baffles me when its adults! I feel like they should know how intrusive of a question that really is. I don't mind talking about it to my best friends or SIL since we have a close relationship, but when its aunts, uncles, cousins etc that I am not close to I just find it awkward.
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Post by jenn314 on May 13, 2015 10:14:41 GMT -5
Just discovering this thread now. I really need to branch off the main board sometimes.
H and I talked about babies a few weeks ago. He told me he wants to wait a bit longer. Originally we'd talked about trying in another year or two. He wants it to be two or three years. And then I almost started crying because I can't imagine waiting that long and I think he started to realize how much it meant to me and said he'd be OK with the original timeline. I just don't want to push him. I'm frustrated that we're waiting. Logically I get it, but it feels like we're just waiting around and it's hard.
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Post by mrsELF6713 on May 13, 2015 11:54:48 GMT -5
Just discovering this thread now. I really need to branch off the main board sometimes. H and I talked about babies a few weeks ago. He told me he wants to wait a bit longer. Originally we'd talked about trying in another year or two. He wants it to be two or three years. And then I almost started crying because I can't imagine waiting that long and I think he started to realize how much it meant to me and said he'd be OK with the original timeline. I just don't want to push him. I'm frustrated that we're waiting. Logically I get it, but it feels like we're just waiting around and it's hard. This is exactly where we are. My H is SCARED that is for sure; kids just freak him out. One day he's talking about how he is not getting any younger and how we should stick to the timeline, and then something happens at work and its back to comments about not having kids anytime soon. H was always an "either way" when it came to having kids, but he knows I want to be a mom someday and so we have always been on the same page in terms of having a family someday. Our original plan was to start TTC (or at least just get off the pill and "see what happens") in June. The last two months my BC Rx has gotten messed up and both times he freaked out; so I am pretty sure we are pushing the timeline. I'm fine pushing it a little, but I don't want to have to keep pushing it every time something happens. I really think he never will be ready and I will just have to say "surprise" we are pregnant. Its almost like the planning for it is what freaks him out the most. We are totally on the same page of right now the timing is not right, so I agree that we may need to hold a month or two while we get things back on track at work (when the day comes that I do have a baby, we have to have a plan of who is going to run our business and that "plan" recently fell through). But I also don't think waiting a year is going to do much help. If its not one thing, its something else that could interfere... and we will always have an additional 9 months to figure it out once I do get pregnant Other than the when is the right time frustration, lately I've been feeling "left out" a lot. All of my best friends have babies and so does my SIL, so it seems that all everyone talks about is their kids--which is common and one day I will be there too, but it also would be nice if every once in awhile the conversation could be about something different. Lately every time we make plans to do something, plans fall through because of the kids on some level. I know that is life, but it sucks not having friends without kids right now. wow, i rambled an tangent! lol, sorry.
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Post by jenn314 on May 13, 2015 12:31:59 GMT -5
Ramble away!
For us, I was always the one who was "either way" and now I'm firmly in the "I want babies camp". H has always wanted them, he just doesn't want them now. And I get that. Sometimes I don't feel like an adult either. But we're 27. It's not like we're 18 and talking about this. Gah.
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